How I overcame fear to follow my heart

A few weeks ago I was interviewed by the lovely Lauren from The Multi-Coloured Collar. Lauren asked me questions about Little Grey Box and how moved from where I was in my old career, to where I am now, working my dream job. The timing of the questions was perfect, because since leaving my job I hadn’t paused to look back over all the things that had happened since I left my old job. It’s really easy for us to get swept up in moving forward, constantly thinking of the next thing to achieve, that we kinda forget to celebrate the little and big victories that have happened along the way.

Answering Lauren’s questions put everything into perspective for me and reading over my answers, I realised all my hard work had been easily organised into the answers for 10 questions. Seeing things put so simply in front of me, made me realise how far I’d come but also made me realise how easy it is for anyone else wanting to do the same thing. If you want to read my interview with Lauren, you can do that by clicking here.

 

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Like most people, I was working an office job. It wasn’t a career I had studied for or spent my life building towards, it was just something I had fallen into and it was very, very comfortable. It was easy to wake up every day, get ready and go to work then come home and prepare to do it all over again. My job paid me well, I had two bosses for a long time that I really liked working for and our work team was fun. Staying in that job would have been very easy, but it always felt like something was missing and for the longest time I wasn’t sure what it was.

I started looking for the answers everywhere; in my friends and family, by reading books, looking for other jobs, researching career options, taking up hobbies and throwing myself into them. I looked for answers everywhere, except myself. I spent the longest time chasing my tail, trying to find someone or something to tell me what I wanted, when I was the only person who could do that.

By this time I had already been working on Little Grey Box for a few years, but just as a side project. There was no way I thought writing a blog could be a career or a ‘real’ job. Looking back at those thoughts now, I wonder why. Why is it that I didn’t think it was possible? Why did I think I couldn’t leave my job and do something I love? Part of it is fear, your usual assortment of generic fears like failure, embarrassment and loss of income.

The other part of it is because we’re quite often told that life is tough and you have to do things you don’t like. We watch people around us hate their jobs and vent about, rant on and on about how they hate their boss or their co-workers and we all just nod and agree with them, confirming to them that it’s just part of life. It’s the norm to hate your job, or at least dislike it and wish for another one. It’s also the norm to stay in your job because, damn son, you got bills to pay!

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It isn’t the norm to quit your job and try something different. It isn’t the norm to have a job you absolutely love and, when we do come across people like that, we usually find a way to diminish what they’re doing. We say things like, “Oh she’s so lucky,” and, “I bet she works long hours and doesn’t earn much, it must be a real struggle.”

Luck has nothing to do with it. It isn’t luck that someone leaves their job, builds their own business from the ground up, pours their heart into it and makes it grow. That’s hard work and trust. It takes a lot of trust in yourself, your abilities, your dreams and your self-worth to do something like that.

None of this is intended to be a put down for people who don’t choose a different career path. It’s intended to share with you that it’s possible to do it, if you want to. If you’ve ever dreamed about having a different career or taking a chance on something you love, then do it. All the fears and limiting thoughts you have are just that, thoughts.

When you really break them down and analyse them, there’s nothing you can’t overcome. Most of our fears are pre-programmed into us, they are things we’re told our whole lives and they radically change our ability to trust our instincts and take risks, because we’re terrified of failure and embarrassment. But I’m telling you, from personal experience, it doesn’t have to be like that.

When you take a chance on yourself and trust your heart, you can’t get it wrong. There is no way to fail. Even if your worst fears are realised and things don’t go how you planned, you still succeeded because you had the guts to take a chance and try. Many other people won’t, but you did. Even that way of thinking should be a last resort, because you can and will succeed if you really, really want to.

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Before I took a chance and made the leap, I was terrified. I worried if I didn’t get things right I wouldn’t just be letting myself down, but also my husband and my family. But all of them told me the same thing, that all they really cared about was my happiness and as long as I was happy, they’re happy.

So, I took a chance and followed my heart. Since that moment, every decision I’ve made has been based on what my heart tells me to do. Every decision is based on love and respect for myself, which may sound incredibly selfish to someone who hasn’t tried it before, but is the best way I’ve found to make decisions. Since that point, everything has changed for me and it can change for you too.

Don’t let fear hold you back and don’t allow other people’s fears or beliefs to shape your decisions. In your heart you know what’s right for you, so don’t get caught up looking for answers in other places, because you’ve already got them, you just need to listen.


Little Grey Box is a travel blog, but every Wednesday I write a personal post to share whatever has been on my mind or whatever awkward, weird situation I’ve gotten myself into. It’s also a way for me to share who I am with you and, hopefully, make you smile and feel less weird if you think about things the same way I do! 

If you liked this post, check out my other weekly posts here in Phoebe’s Column and come back next Wednesday to read my next personal post. 

Love Phoebe x 

10 Comments on How I overcame fear to follow my heart

  1. You made a decision but you were also very aware of your talents. I don’t doubt that you probably did heaps of research and followed through on your ideas as well as being determined and disciplined. That’s another headspace you have.

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  2. Great post! Just what I needed to hear… I’m in a middle of job search and I’m afraid I will not find anything until I create it myself. Thanks for Your inspiration! 🙂

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  3. Love this! I’m where you were but afraid to make the leap. I’m in ‘search’ mode and think all of my discoveries and hobbies can only enrich my life and help my well being but need to have a heart to heart with myself and see if I can’t find some answers.

    I admire your hard work and ‘see it through-ness’. Thanks for the inspiration!

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  4. Beautifully said! You should share more personal posts that just on Wednesday 😀 This post is oozing with inspiration and I see so much of my world in your words. Thank you for having courage to move with your passions, and for encouraging others to do the same.

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  5. Absolutely fantastic post! You inspired me with everything you wrote. I am in the same situation right now, following my heart into making the right choices, so it’s great to read this. Good luck into everything that makes you happy and thank you for sharing your thoughts with us xo

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  6. Reblogged this on Life's Every Spice! and commented:
    you know that saying..”it’s not too late if you start today”? i say its not overrated!

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